I have another post have drafted but wanted to post this quickly. . Was at the gym last night, and hadn't been for 4 days as I had family staying with me. Was tired and cranky (because TOM due tomorrow) and mother driving me mental (god love her, that is her job !!) and a trainer chatted to me. Now this is the 2nd one that has befriended me, is it because I am large? or just have one of those faces. She tried to convince me to go to the bodyjam class. What was good was I had 8 minutes chat to her about mine, and others, fear of classes -she said there is always someone else that feels that way. Apparently next week is some new routine etc and no one will know it I made promise to her that I would go. The thought terrifies me but I think it will be good for me and a change of routine. It is good to face our fears. WI tomorrow so with TOM due I am not feeling positive, probably because I am going mad with PMS symptoms, don't you just love being a girl. My niece arrives tomorrow to spend the weekend with me. Looking forward to it and will sit down and plan what I am eating (as we will be out eating a lot). She does need to lose weight but I want her to realise that being overweight does not define you as a person, you are after all more than a body. As a person that had a mother that hounded me about my weight, I don't want her to go through this, after all we all know that losing weight is about mindset - not what others want us to do, although I know I need to lost a lot of weight, saying that doesn't make it a natural thing to do, I am doing well because my headset is right, but if it wasn't then I would struggle . She is a fantastic 14 year old and I always reinforce that I love her for her.